|Image of promises made and worked on.|
This writing made me stop in my track. What a statement on the wall!! A reminder and sense of responsibility....a sensitive mind and a conscious soul... a promise to be kept and a want to be controlled.....self control and love for family values... I think I could think of many things that came up as a mind map in my mind. I felt immense love and respect for my 13 year old. I felt pride and had welled up eyes. I also felt happy that somewhere I did a decent job of raising conscious kids who understand what we say. In a world where I often hear parents crying out or nagging " my kid doesn't listen" " he sits with his gaming often" etc etc... this came as a respite. All those hours of talking to her and drilling sense, all those small instructions to raise her awareness are looking so right.
We underestimate these kids. They love to be responsible and good people. It's our duty to make them receptive to the language we want them to talk. They have a conscience, we just have to make them aware and help them listen to that inner voice. It's a part of growing to repel and revolt and it's our duty to help them realize what to fight for and how to turn it around to help them do it. At the end it's us parents who are responsible for the behavior of our kids. They reflect us and never blame them but reflect inwards where we went wrong.
We have had our winter break and had enough of quiet time and lazy time in front of the TV or just the couch. It happens and it did happen to us too. Tired of the marathon of school life and hectic days and weeks she too regressed. Bringing her back to be aware of it took a couple of days but she did come back and how! She still watches YouTube videos but they are now for helping her hear better. Train her brain to understand more. It's a long and slow process. But in this journey we have learnt to be patient and work diligently. It's not as much of sitting with her and supervising it, no teen likes it and she is no exception. But it's about raising her awareness and helping her to make better choices. This is one way of making her independent and making her wings stronger so she can fly stronger and higher.
As a mum this picture is precious. It's a belief in what we do, belief in what we did and belief in what she would do. We just need to hold her and help her steadily walk up to the future with steady strong steps. Thankful and grateful for this moment where she reminds herself each time temptation steps in and choose between the right and the wrong. Can I stop beaming? Can I stop tearing up? Can I stop feeling proud? Can I stop feeling overwhelmed with love ? Answer is too easy and predictable, isn't it?