Last 2 weeks have been very full with activities. We had our family from around the world home for that time. Prisha's uncles and aunts and cousins were there and we had lots of action back home. We observed a very interesting aspect of Prisha's growth. Every individual is so different and she interacted with every body at their level. According to her aunt who is into the field of child education, Prisha's emotional quotient is very high.She was dealing with every person defferently and it was all speech dependent. One of her uncles , who has deaf nieces on his paternal side, is a lot into signs. He told me that as a habit he would use signs with Prisha but she always responded to speech in speech and did not pay attention to signs.He was happy that she did not lip read , she responded to everybody from any direction and did not need to be spoken individually. She sang, she acted out the teacher student role so well that everybody was into splits and knew what her teacher must be doing in the class.Sometimes she acts out doctor -patient, teacher student or sometimes it was speech therapy and other times she was the best momma.She kept each person occupied loving them, entertaining them and interacting with them the way a normal child would. Looking at that at times I had moist eyes as everybody was so happy at the way she has turned out. No body pities her and they are all thankful to my speech therapist for her help in Prisha's integration into normal life.It has made my life so easy and simple as she has a spoken language to interact with the world.
I was teaching her our different relations that she was coming across. The funniest was something that every body had had them holding their stomachs.I was teaching her about the various relations that she shares with all and how my relations are different with those very people.As her dad is my husband , I told her that my husband was coming home and I would hug him. She was insisting that it was her husband. After a long explanation she got this straight. When we had our living room full, she started off her dramas. She said aloud, " mummy, I love your husband, aunt, i love your husband , granny I love your husband". For a moment everybody was silent and then there was a huge laughing session after that.I love the way she deals with situations without me interfering and she comes to terms with them and them uses them to entertain us.This time I realized the importance of a spoken language over signs. I am glad to have such a normal life where each one of us enjoying the little child in our home.We are all thankful for AVT and the teacher who has translated it to us so that we can understand it in layman's terms.
Prisha is so funny- I love the "I love your husband" remarks- I would have been in tears laughing so hard!
ReplyDeleteI also had quite a similar sitiuation at home but the result was totally opposite.my brother,his wife n his twins{a boy n a girl} were here for a week.children r 4 1/2 yrs old, even though they understand english but don't converse in it, they r too comfortable with each other that they don't need anyother child to play with.Rashi was talking to them but because of her non clear speech it was difficult to understand her in first go n they were complaining that they can't understand her.Being a host i was quite busy in kitchen my brother n his wife were also not taking much initiation in dealing the sitiuation.they were meeting Rashi for the first time.they were more interesting in to where you guys r taking us next n all.Ifelt bad for Rashi cause she was quite aggressive with them for not including intheir game.she lost out alot in that week but now that we r few in the house she has again picked up.she speaks to people when they come to our home n they try to talk to her but in public she behaves totally different, some times she doesn't talk at all. i think she will respond well with all english speaking people around her but we want her to respond to hindi also to some extend.please tell me how to help her in similar type of sitiution in future.
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In such situations, I normally talk to Prisha and tell about the people who are visiting us and also tell the people who come about how important it is for them to include her in the inter actions.Our conversations include her in various ways and would tell the aunt to ask Prisha to help her set the table, ask the uncle to ask her to get her some water or talk about school. All this is done so that she too opens up and starts an interactions on her own. If they are not understanding what she is saying, ask them to ask her again as they could not follow. Ask them to ask her to speak clearly.Help her out where she gets stuck. When she is talking to them be there subtly and involve and help out where it is required. It is tough but there is no way out.She must be feeling left out when she is not involved.People who visit will not understand the problem as they do not face it every day , also sometimes they are too embarrassed and choose to stay out of it.You will have to be a mediator and make that bridge between them.In public she may not be understanding the conversation that is going on and also she must be a little conscious about her speech. You will have to understand and help her out of it. It sounds difficult but it is not. try to use her as a mediator between you and the guest and let her convey the messages. All the best.
ReplyDeleteRashi picks very fast in informal atmosphere but the moment v sit with her as a student-teacher n ask smething she just shut it off.v were trying tomakeherconceptof "what,when,why,where,what,how etc " clear.when v play with her she answers very well but if the same ques. is asked in a serious way she just dont say anything. r v expecting too much from her ? do v hav to take one concept at a time? DONT SEND ANY MAIL TO MY HOTMAIL ACC. ITS BEEN HACKED.I 'LL GIV U MY NEW ACC. IN A FEW DAYS.
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This is Simran's query on phone and then on my mail.
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Rashi picks very fast in informal atmosphere but the moment v sit with her as a student-teacher n ask smething she just shut it off.v were trying tomakeherconceptof "what,when,why,where,what,how etc " clear.when v play with her she answers very well but if the same ques. is asked in a serious way she just dont say anything. r v expecting too much from her ? do v hav to take one concept at a time? DONT SEND ANY MAIL TO MY HOTMAIL ACC. ITS BEEN HACKED.I 'LL GIV U MY NEW ACC. IN A FEW DAYS.
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